There are these tiny people who call you mom who are cute, chubby faced, grubby fingered, adorable little ones. These little ones can destroy a room in 3 seconds flat, turn your last nerve to a shredded filament with a few piercing whines, and bring you to tears when you have to answer to, “mom,mom,mom,mom,mom,” for the 3,425 time in 20 minutes.
These are the days that leave us short-tempered and more often than not, louder than we really mean to be. Honestly, yelling doesn’t really get us anywhere, it just relieves some of the pent up frustration, though temporarily because then the guilt sets in for losing our cool. This may be your station in life for the next few years, but there are a few things you should know that will help you quit yelling, and start smiling.
- It’s all about beginnings
Starting your day with the right mindset is key to making it through this season of life without turning every one of your beautiful locks gray. Though it is difficult, especially if you have children that wake in the night, carve out a space in the morning for just you. This can be as little as 15 minutes but it is crucial to set the tone for the rest of your day.
Plan it, and make it happen, every single day. Take this time and calmly make a short to-do list for the day, spend time in your devotions, have a hot cup of whatever makes you smile and pray for your day to go well. A few deep breaths before those little feet hit the floor and head towards you at warp speed.
- Planning life so it doesn’t explode
Have you ever had that day when you look at the clock and realize that it is 6pm and you have no idea what you are making for dinner, your husband is on his way home, the house is a wreck and the kids all need you, like right now? Oh, that is your everyday?
Here, do a little planning up front so that you don’t hit this point on a daily basis. Carve out an hour a week to write down dinner menu ideas, how your ideal day should look on paper, and to plan out daily chores. Sometimes just the act of writing it out helps you organize the chaos of this life.
Time outs are not just for people under 5 feet tall. These little moments can save you from the brink of a shaken Pepsi- style eruption. When you feel the absolute brink of nerve-shattering frustration coming on, take a time out. Step outside your back door and breathe in the air, alone, if only for 3 minutes. Calm down by hiding in the bathroom or closet if necessary and breathe deeply 10 times. Pray for strength and calmly relax every muscle in your body, then breathe some more.
All of us are guilty of multi-tasking to the point that our children do not feel they are being heard. When this happens they will often do anything to get our attention, and it usually isn’t in a positive way. So keep your focus throughout the day, don’t let the smart phone stand between you and your children or even that phone call to your BFF, keep your focus and set aside separate time for things like answering emails, checking social media and taking calls from your bestie.
- Contain the chaos
If you are in the season of little people, it is all too easy to have your home and your life mimic the classic book, “If You Give a Mouse a Cookie.” You know the one, the chaos is throughout the whole house, and the little boy is an exhausted mess, it is an anthem for most moms on most days. So contain the chaos and stop between activities to clean up, slow down, and teach your children transitions.
It has been said before, this is a season of life, the days are so very long, but trust the seasoned moms who tell you that the years are so very short.