Tips for Deschooling your Child

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Congratulations, you have made the brave decision to take your child out of school and embark on homeschooling. It is exciting but it may also feel overwhelming. You may have made this decision because school was not the right fit and the last thing you want to do is recreate the school environment at home.

The process of making transition from school to homeschool a time to decompress is called deschooling. Let’s discuss ways to help this process go smoothly so both you and your child can face homeschooling with hope and new attitude.

Tips for Deschooling your Child

Set Aside Formal Academics for a Time

Your child needs a break from learning in the traditional sense. He needs to find that curiosity that sparks an interest and love of learning. Spend time determining his learning style and talking about what homeschooling can look like for your family. Your child is not used to you being the teacher so allow for some adjustment while being firm on what your new position will mean.

Let your child know that you are his biggest advocate in education and you may seem harsh at times or put new demands on him but it is out of love for him and his academic success.

Plan Field Trips

While you are setting aside curriculum, you are not setting aside learning. Allow your child a chance to experience education by planning field trips. Explore your city and nearby cities together by visiting historic sites or museums. If you can, plan a few nights away for an extended field trip or plan to see a play or musical. Let learning come alive by real life experiences.

Start with Unit Studies of Independent Projects Based on Interest

When it is time to begin formal academics, ease into it by using your child’s interest as a guide. Begin with unit studies or assign a project your child can immerse himself in. Children are naturally curious therefore they are natural learners. Unit studies allow a child to explore areas of interest and help the deschooling process since learning will become enjoyable for, perhaps, the first time.

Deschooling Brain Dump Printable

Use this free printable when deschooling your child. Ask your child the different questions and record his answers. If your child is old enough, he can write down the answers himself. Click the image below to open the PDF to download!

Do you have any tips for deschooling a child?

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This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Heather, how does one even embark on the road of taking a child out of a brick and mortar school? Is there a process? What do you need to know to homeschool your child? I’m asking because I have a niece who has asked to be homeschooled due to the amount of bullying she has had to endure at school. I’d like to be able to pass on some information to my sister. Thanks.

    1. When we took our kid out of a brick-n-mortar school, I first educated myself on my state’s laws. Once I knew what we had to do, including what to do in order to take them out to homeschool, it was much easier to take that step. I didn’t have all the details planned, but enough to get us started on the right track.

      Our state had little required of us to do so (a letter to the superintendent’s office). However, other states have more; we currently live in a state where a cover school is needed. At first, that felt overwhelming, till I spent a few nights doing research online to familiarize myself with the various options.

      A quick search of “(your state)’s home school laws” should get you going in the right direction.

  2. How about an article with tips for deschooling the mom who did 12+years of school? Or for dad? Or the unsupportive grandmother who thinks we are crazy?? Please!!!!

  3. These are all great points! This is our first year homeschooling (1st and 3rd grade). My 3rd grader is having a harder time adjusting to “any” kind of learning. His anger related to school and a former teacher are still consuming too many of his thoughts. We are still unable to do “formal” schooling of any kind with him but games/field trips/video clips/read aloud have proven to be amazing tools to engage his thinking and get him learning without him realizing it. Thanks for posting this.

  4. This is such a fantastic post! I’ve been a homeschool mum for years now, and have seen my children through from infants all the way through to their A levels. I know so many people who look down on my choice and think that my child will be receiving an inferior education because of this. But this is most definitely not the case at all! There are so many varying online courses these days that can help with providing all the required tools! (For example I used Oxbridge Learning with my children and they got terrific results! I am just so happy I’ve come across your blog as I really think it will open people’s eyes up to homeschooling and all the benefits it can provide! So from one mother to another – thank you x

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