7 Things Homeschool Moms Want You to Know

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If you’ve been homeschooling for any time at all, you know there are certain questions that you face all. The. Time. Truthfully, sometimes answering the same questions, and devaluing the same myths over and over again gets a little old. So, I’ve put together a list of seven things that as a homeschooling mom, I would like my non-homeschooling friends and family to know. Read on and see if you agree with my sentiments….you might even want to print out a few copies to keep on hand and pass out at social gatherings {kidding…sort of.}

7 Things Homeschool Moms Want You to Know

  1. We don’t think less of you because you don’t homeschool. Can we please just be clear on this one? I am no better than you simply because I’ve been called to homeschool my children. We know you are an awesome mom! If we’ve ever made you feel inadequate, trust me it was not intentional. As homeschooling moms, we are very passionate about home education, but we know that homeschooling just isn’t feasible for all families and we respect your decision to educate your child as you see fit.
  2. Yes, my children are learning and we don’t need you to quiz them “just to make sure”. This is one thing that just needs to stop. I don’t walk around quizzing your children just to be sure they’re on grade level, so please don’t quiz mine. My children are learning, I promise. Spend some time with them and you’ll see the proof, but please don’t put them on the spot by quizzing them.
  3. Yes, my children are socialized. True story! We really don’t stay locked up in our home all day everyday. My children do get to spend time with their peers {sports, church activities, co-op, homeschool group, scouts, etc} but even more than that, they are fortunate enough to spend time with people of all ages.
  4. We don’t do it all. Nope, not even close. Successful homeschooling parents don’t even try to do it all. They know when to ask for help. They know which subjects they need help teaching and they find resources {tutors, co-ops, etc} to alleviate the stress in teaching those subjects.
  5. We are not all the same. We don’t all have 9.5 kids. We don’t all unschool. We don’t all have the same faith life. We’re not all weird–well, I guess that is still up for debate, but you get the picture. Thinking all homeschool families are the same is the equivalent of saying all public school parents are the same, and I think you know how untrue that statement is. Homeschooling families come in every shape, size, and color and their reasons for homeschooling are all different as well.
  6. Deep down, we’re just like you. Our children are our worlds and we are following God’s call and doing what we feel is best for them. We have good days and we have bad days. We lose our patience. We feel defeated. We second guess our parenting and wonder if we’re making the right choices. But, at the end of the day, we tuck them in, climb into bed, and pray for a new day tomorrow.
  7. No, I can’t {or won’t} homeschool your children, too. I can’t speak for all homeschool moms here, but personally, I love you and I love your children, but I don’t want to be responsible for their education. However, if you want your children to be homeschooled, God just happened to give them the perfect teacher, and I’ll be here to encourage you every step of the way.

What would you add to this list of things you would like non-homeschooling friends/family to know about homeschooling?

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This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. I think you took the words right out of my mouth! I have said these exact words MANY times to people! Thanks for sharing!

  2. I have had these conversations over and over again with people and even family members. This is a great list.

  3. yup, I get tons of teens asking me to homeschool them. my kids is 4! I tell the teens I get the idea you think it will be fun and no work. But homeschoolers work just as hard as public and are often ahead of the crowd. so its not all fun and games. last time I told one that, a peer of theirs who is homeschooled sat right beside her and nodded her head. then told her a lot of truth about homeschool.

  4. The socialization question drives me batty!! My usual response is “yes, she can carry on conversations with her peers and adults too. Amazing, right?” But seriously, love the topic and can totally relate.

  5. We don’t have all the time in the world because we homeschool. Despite the vision that I sit at home eating bon-bons while my children freely run their day, there is an enormous amount of work that goes into homeschooling various grades at one time. And not only do we homeschoolers have to plan the work, we then have to prepare materials, teach the lessons, correct work, and then plan ahead for the next stage of learning. I don’t have time to talk for hours in the middle of the day – if you can even reach me between chauffeuring to practices, lessons, co-ops, and appointments. Sure, I dream of mornings at the gym and tea with the ladies, but that season will come once I raise my children to the best of my ability.

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