You awake, head pounding, your body is heavy, and you do not want to get out of bed. The kids want breakfast. However, your eyes are barely open and your mind is already flooded with daily tasks. Anxiety builds as reality sets in. Suddenly, you realize you are accountable for training these beloved children of yours to become responsible adults. You begin doubting the possibility. You may be experiencing Mothering Burnout.
You need relief…
The pre-flight safety instructions tell us, “If there is a drop in cabin pressure, panels above your seat will open, revealing oxygen masks. Place the mask over your nose and mouth, and adjust the mask. Be sure to adjust your own mask, before helping others.”
Why would a mother put on her own oxygen mask before her child’s? She cannot physically help her child until she cares for her own needs. As mothers, we constantly sacrifice time, energy, and even our health to care for our family even at the risk of our own wellbeing. It’s not selfish to occasionally put ourselves first.Our family depends on us but first we need to care for our own needs.
Indications of Mothering Burn Out
- You experience chronic feelings of guilt and self-doubt.
- You feel like you’re just going through the motions.
- You frequently feel frustrated and cranky, even about the little things.
Tips For Relief.
- Shower: When we are home all day with no plans to leave it’s very easy to skip morning hygiene. Spending 15 minutes on YOU can reduce overall pressure throughout the day. The weight that is lifted off our body after an amazing shower is freeing! We are cleansed, no longer wearing the oil and dirt from days past.
- Teach Kids To Help: Part of raising our children is teaching them responsibility. They can make a bowl of cereal in the morning, or help siblings with spelling words. Plus a regular chore schedule helps share the load.
- Time With Friends: Get away for coffee. Meet up just to talk. You make time for your kids to have friends, do the same for yourself.
- Time Alone: Have a mandatory naptime or quiet time. The kids may not want quiet time for themselves, but it’s necessary for you. The same goes at night after the bedtime routine is done. The kids stay in bed. It’s time for mom and dad to have time to reconnect.
We are the glue that holds our families together. However, once we are at a point that we are coming unglued, it’s time to set aside time for OURSELVES.
It’s not selfish to take time for yourself. Aside from your family, what are things that bring you joy?