Living Intentional Challenge: Being an Intentional Wife – Day Two

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…and the wife must respect her husband. ~ Ephesians 5:33

How many of us, if asked would say that we respect our husbands.

I am sure 99% of us would raise our hands and affirm that yes, we do respect our husbands.

Friends, I am sorry if this post sounds “preachy”, please know that yes, in fact I am preaching, but I’m not preaching to you, I’m preaching to myself.

These are words that I so desperately need to hear, but more importantly, they are words I need to put into action.

I am one of the wives who when asked would immediately raise her hand confirming that I respect my husband.

But do I really?

Do I respect him when I disagree with him?

Do I respect him when it’s hard?

Do I respect him at all times as the Bible instructs me to do?

What I would like to say here is, “yeah, but…he does x, y, and z”.

However the true answer is, no. I don’t show him the respect I should. The respect he deserves. The respect I am commanded to show.

Respecting your husband means trusting him to lead your family.

  • Believing that he has the best interest of the family at heart.
  • Trusting his lead {even if it isn’t the way you would do things.}

Respecting your husband means respecting his authority in disciplining your children.

  • This means never undermining him in front of the children.
  • This means backing him up 100% of the time.
  • Your children will never learn to respect their father if they see their mother disrespecting him.

Respecting your husband means always building him up {and never tearing him down} when talking with others.

  • Ladies, your husband needs your encouragement more than you know.
  • It is never okay to participate in a “husband bashing” gripe session with your friends.
  • Sharing words of encouragement with your husband and speaking highly of your husband with others is one of the greatest forms of motivation for your man. Don’t believe me? Try it and see for yourself!

Respecting your husband means arguing well.

  • Arguments will happen. It is how you argue that determines if you are showing your husband respect or not.
  • Focus on the issue at hand, never attacking his character.
  • Focus on resolution and not past hurts.
  • Offer forgiveness freely and move on.

Respecting your husband means putting his needs before your own.

  • This means humbling yourself.
  • This means putting your pride aside.
  • There is no room for selfishness in a marriage. You are made to be his helper. When you said, “I do”, you laid aside your “all about me” attitude, resist the urge to pick it back up. {For me, this is a daily thing.}

Respecting your husband means praying for him constantly.

  • Pray for his strength and wisdom.
  • Pray for guidance.
  • Pray that you can be the wife he needs you to be.
  • Even if your husband doesn’t share your faith, you can still pray for his role as leader of your family.

Putting another individual’s needs before your own isn’t a natural action.

Holding your tongue when you really just want to rant isn’t easy.

Relinquishing control and trusting another to lead you is a hard path to walk.

But ladies, when your husband asked you to be his wife and you said yes, you also said yes to the duties that come with being a wife.

Those vows you took on your wedding day weren’t just empty words spoken during a ceremony, they were promises you made to each other before God and man.

You meant them on that day, and you need to mean them each day from that point on.

To have and to hold from this day forward. For better, for worse. For richer or poorer. In sickness and in health. To love and to cherish forever.

Today’s Challenge: Step outside of your comfort zone to show respect to your husband today. When conflict arises, choose respect. Voice words of encouragement. Pray for him.

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This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. Very good post. I wish I could say I always respect my best friend, but I fail so often.

  2. Such a great post! I love how you broke each step down! Thank you for sharing and linking up at Simply Helping Him! Blessings!

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