What Do I Do When Friends and Family are Critical of Our Decision to Homeschool?

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What do I do when family and friends are critial of our decision to homeschool
Does this sound familiar?

After numerous hours of prayer and research, you’ve finally made the decision to homeschool your children. You’re a bundle of nerves, but filled with hope and excitement for this new journey. You’ve filled out the formal paperwork and bought curriculum.

You begin to tell family and friends about your decision only to be met with a series of unnecessary questions and comments. Your parade has officially been rained on and you are left fumbling for responses and filled with doubt.

If this doesn’t sound familiar to you, consider yourself blessed, but for the majority of us, announcing our decision to homeschool wasn’t always accepted enthusiastically.

So what do you do when opposition arises?

  • First of all (and most importantly), remember why you’ve decided to homeschool. God has called you to this path, and this path is your own. It’s not for everyone. Family and friends might not understand how you’ve reached this conclusion, and that’s okay. Maybe you’re like me and didn’t fully understand how you began this journey. That’s okay too. The fact is God has called you to something and you’ve obeyed. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone.
  • Set misconceptions straight {but don’t get into an argument}. Share the facts with them. Many people continue to think homeschoolers don’t get out of the house, aren’t socialized, will never get taken seriously by colleges or employers, etc. You can politely shed light on the situation, you never know you might even convince them to consider homeschooling!
  • Try to include family and friends in your homeschooling adventures. Let your actions speak for themselves. I’ve seen this play out in my own family. As we dive further into our journey, my family and friends are seeing that homeschooling really works for us. My children are thriving and many of their preconceived notions have been put to rest simply by observing. I can honestly say that my family members who were hesitant to support our decision to homeschool would be very disappointed if I were to tell them we were going to quit homeschooling.
  • And if none of the above ideas work for you, simply thank them for their concern and ignore their comments. Yep, that’s right. Ignore them. You’re doing what you feel called to do, and what is best for your family, and that’s all that matters. Are the comments annoying? Yes. Disheartening? At times. Worth getting upset and stressed out over? Not at all. Turn it over to God and leave it there.

Have you faced opposition from family and friends regarding your decision to homeschool? How did you deal with it? Is it still an issue?

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