I want Sicily to be a curious individual that asks questions and seeks answers on a daily basis. I want her to know how to use different resources to creativly discover answers through problem solving and critical thinking. I envision Sicily being a person who loves learning and seeks learning opportunities.
Do you have a vision for your kids?
When I first started exploring with homeschool, I wrote this vision for daughter. It has helped ground every decision I have made involving her.
I want my kids to be the ones that everyone talks about.
But in a good way!
I want to be the fly on the way listening to their friends say things like…
“I know I can count on her to help through any situation.”
“She is so confident. She puts a positive spin on everything!”
And the ever so popular Facebook post…
“To the lady in the red car. Thanks for buying my lunch today. It was a horrible day. You put a smile on my face. And FYI, I kept it going!”
This world is full of people who don't do the little things any more. Kindness and hard work are not appreciated. But I want my kids to power through the flaws of our world and be a change maker.
The 5 Things I Want My Kids to Learn
1. It's Okay to Fail
“I can't, Mama!”
I hear these words all too often from my two year old. And it's simple things that she has been doing for over a year now.
I mean putting her toothbrush away might make her arms fall off. And the plate actually ending up in the sink just might be short of a miracle.
But as much as those things bother me, they aren't the reason why my eyes are bloodshot from no sleep. It's the “I can't” to something new she tries.
I work very hard in creating a growth mindset in my children. I intentionally place them in situations where they're going to fail.
Why? Because I want them to fail. I want them to fall on their face, bury their head in their hands, and sob from failing.
I know that sounds harsh, but I have a good reason.
Because when they do fail, I place them in that growth mindset. We practice saying “I can't YET!” a lot in our house.
Related: Why I Want My Kids to Fail
You see I'm a big believer in the saying that things don't come easy. Yes, there are some people who never have to try in life. Everything they try, they're good at. These kids don't ever have to open a textbook. And they still succeed.
But then there are the lucky ones. The ones who get to experience failure. See failure teaches a lot of important life skills that I don't want my kids to miss out on. Things like perseverance, innovative thinking, and empathy.
2. Always Be the One Lifting Others Up
I don't watch the news anymore, Mama. You with me?
There is so much hate in the world, and the media just makes it worse. Honestly, I don't even want to think about the condition of this world when my kids are on their own.
But what I can do, is teach them to power through the hate. To be the ones who lift everyone up.
And most importantly, to be the one who lifts others up even if they don't agree with their position.
3. Be Kind
The other day I was standing in line with my Big Gulp and Starburst because…well it was that kind of day. The cashier is one of those cute little old guys.
Then there was this lady with her hoodie up…in 90 degree weather. She pushed others out of the way to put her cinnamon buns and energy drinks on the counter. Then walked away.
The cashier started to ring those items up. He didn't see her leave them there. The woman in front of me started yelling “Those aren't mine! Those aren't mine! Those aren't mine!”
I mean the poor guy didn't even have time to answer before another “Those aren't mine!” came out of her mouth and she ran to another cashier with curse words blaring out her mouth.
The poor guy looked offended. I mean I would too. Even though I had a horrible…no toddler, no baby napped kinda day…I put my best smile on and tried to be as kind as possible to this gentleman.
Not only do these little things make someone else's day, but they make me feel good too. I want my kids to experience the happiness that being kind brings to not only themselves, but others too.
4. Have Confidence
I am not a confident person. I struggle every day with putting myself out there. I'm more of the hibernate in the house with a big bowl of ice cream on a Friday night type of girl.
Simply because I don't want to be judged. But I don't want this for my kids.
I want my kids to be confident in everything they do. Even if they know they're going to suck at it!
But I don't want them to be egotistical either! Which leads me to my last point…
5. Love Learning
Yes, I want them to be confident. But I want them to understand that they are not going to be good at everything. But we can always improve. I want my kids to seek knowledge and follow their curiosities, even as adults.
And you know what…
Teaching these things starts now. It starts when they are babies, toddlers, and preschoolers just trying to figure out this world.
When we give them a strong foundation of support, confidence, kindness, and a world to explore at their own free will…
We give them important character traits and values that will set them up for success throughout their whole life.
Which brings me to a really exciting announcement…
Coming January 1, 2018 I will be opening the first ever early learning membership of it's kind.
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This membership includes:
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- -A curriculum for toddlers ages 18 months through 2 years old. Followed by a bit more structured 3 year old curriculum and 4 year old curriculum. Again all child-led!
- -A Mama's Community! A forum to find support, ideas, and a place to just vent without being judged.
- -Add on curriculums that fit seamlessly into the main curriculums. Practical life, fairy tales, nursery rhymes, and character development.
- -Courses to help you better understand your little one and how they learn. How to training so you can confidently teach your little one at home in your unique environment and family situations.
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This membership is valued at $350 a year. But you get a chance for a whole year subscription for FREE!
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No more wasted hours planning activities your child is not interested in. Confidently plan your days full of playing, learning, and enjoying your little one.
About the Author:
Amanda is a teacher turned stay at home mom. She has over 11 years experience teaching in classrooms from preschool through elementary. At Sicily's Heart & Home, Amanda is passionate about helping moms confidently teach their little ones through a child-led, hands-on approach to learning. She encourages simple set ups with high learning value so you can focus on enjoying the learning process with your child. Amanda is the creator of The Toddler Experience Curriculum and soon to open Nourishing Small Minds Community. You can follow her on Pinterest or Facebook. Join her ever growing Tot School and Home Preschool Facebook Group. And don't forget to download her Print & Play Calendar!