Don’t give up and put them back in school – homeschooling is not for the faint of heart that is for sure. You have chosen this path, maybe you were called to it or it chose you, but you are here, your children are here, and there are so many voices that are telling you that you cannot succeed.
They are wrong.
Let me bend your ear for a moment. Something that no one tells you when you purchase all of those shiny, fresh new books is that you are going to come to a place that you crash. It is unavoidable, it happens to all of us, really it does. You may have an illness in the family, the birth of a new little one, the death of a relative, the loss of a job, the season of uncertainty, whatever the reason; you will one day crash.
When you do, it feels like you are a failure. You will feel as though nothing you do is quite good enough for your child’s needs. You may even begin to entertain the idea that you are not as good of a teacher as you had originally dreamed you would be. In your dreams you imagined the beauty of homeschooling your children, enjoying beautiful literature, cruising through math, learning hands-on through science, then life happened.
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When life happens, you are then hit with the realization that you did not complete (you may have barely even started) the science curriculum that you pined for and spent way too much on. Don’t give up and put them back in school.
When life happens, you find that there was a lot less enjoyment and maybe a tad too much voice raising going on. Don’t give up and put them back in school.
When life happens, you compare your child with others his or her age and you feel inadequate for what your child did not learn, don’t give up and put them back in school.
When life happens and you are dealing with the beautiful mess of it all, your child is learning the real stuff, don’t give up and put them back in school.
Why not? Because if you give up when your child is learning life, you have missed some of the most important opportunities for learning.
When a new baby arrives and you feel like the last 2 years have set your homeschool on its side allowing you to complete very little consistent textbook learning, your children are learning about early childhood development. Your children are learning about ages and stages, milestones and markers and they are doing it in the context of real life that they would be missing if they were gone for 6 hours or more a day.
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When a family illness involves mom being gone for extended periods or someone dealing with grief and loss, they are learning about family dynamics, emotional processing, and unity. This is a topic that most highschoolers struggle in, but your children may be learning it hands on without actually having it on their syllabus.
When life takes your family, your homeschool, or you on unexpected twists and turns and wreaks havoc on your homeschool, it’s okay. You are not failing your children, they are still learning, you can do this and you are not alone because we have all been there. Your children would not be better off at school, God gave them to you for the purpose of his glory, and even in the messiness and chaos of life, you are their best teacher and guide.