Just the other day my husband and I were reminiscing about the early days of our relationship. We met while in college at a campus Bible study and had a lot of fun together ministering around the country with fellow Christian college students. We were so young and so excited to serve the Lord, get married, and go on to Graduate school. We also talked about the butterflies we'd get in our stomach every time we knew we had the chance to go on a date or spend some time together. It was nothing short of amazing.
Sixteen years into our marriage I can honestly say that we both share about getting butterflies when we are reunited after a work day or any other separation. I always feel my heart race when I hear my phone ring and I look down to see that it's him. This didn't happen by accident. It has all been very intentional. Today I am going to share with you 5 tips to help you keep the spice in your marriage.
1. Never miss the chance to show your spouse you love them.
We've all heard the saying, actions speak louder than words. And it's true. Be intentional every day to show your spouse you love them. Whether it's through a sweet note or text message, or a quick call during the day to tell them what you love about them, be sure to consider blessing them every day. I'd also encourage you and your spouse to make a list of things that you both enjoy as a starting point to brainstorm ways to bless one another. And remember, it's the little things that add up and show someone how you feel. Be sure that no matter how busy life gets always keep the romance alive and show your spouse you love them.
2. Never miss the chance to tell your spouse you love them.
Saying I love you is an important way to affirm your spouse. Sometimes just simply hearing those words from someone who really means it can make a bad day turn good. Over the course of our marriage we have not missed the opportunities to tell one another how much we love each other. I will never forget the first time my husband deployed for a year to Iraq. It was surreal. And telling him that I loved him every chance I got helped him pull through that hard first year of war. My husband will tell you that through limited phone calls and letters when he heard or read the words, “I love you Michael” that it reminded him that everything was going to be all right. My husband has always had a very strong relationship with Jesus, but even still, the covenant relationship of our marriage is another way that God manifests Himself to us. And I encourage you to never ever miss the opportunity to tell your spouse you love them.
3. Kiss your spouse often.
Kissing your spouse is something that really ignites passion and keeps you on your toes! Did you know that kissing your spouse can:
- help keep you calm
- add happiness due to increased serotonin levels
- bring increased intimacy
- increase trust
It's true! And let's be honest, kissing your spouse is absolutely exciting and fun!
One thing you will notice about the above tips to keep the spice in your marriage is that they are all FREE. You don't need to spend any money to have a solid and romantic marriage. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with spending money to build your marriage, but that should only be the icing on the cake! I hope that these three simple ideas will help you keep the spice alive in your marriage. I believe that if you implement the above suggestions on a daily basis, your marriage will always be spicy, romantic, and fun!
Carlie K. @ fulfillingyourvows.com